Let s talk about your family.
What is family for you?
Family is very important for every person, because it gives you a sense of stability and tradition, a feeling of having support and understanding. You feel secure when there’s a family behind you. They are people whom you can trust and rely on, people who won’t let you down and who share your joys and sorrows. In happy families parents are honest with their children, they treat their children with respect without bossing them, and children in their turn learn how to treat other people and how to form relationship with their peers.
Are you on good terms with your parents and grandparents?
Yes, I am. I enjoy honest and open relationship in my family. I like it when parents trust their children, give them enough freedom and respect them. I think these things make family relations warm and pleasant. There is no so-called "generation gap" in our family, though we may argue and disagree on certain issues. For example, my parents don’t always approve of my tastes, views and clothes.
In fact I have a closer relationship with my mother. We understand each other better, which I think is quite natural. We can spend hours and hours talking about our family problems, fashion, views on education, people’s relations and ambitions.
I guess when people spend more time together they become closer to each other. It’s a pity, but my parents and I are usually very busy during the weekdays and we seldom have a chance to spend time together. Sunday is the day when we can sit at the table and talk over everything what happened during the week. Eating together makes us feel close and we often have our most frank conversations at this time. Also once a week my mum gives the flat a big clean. Of course I help her with it. By the way it’s not so boring. I turn on music and we even have tun. Then we may go shopping together. During our shopping rounds we discuss a lot of things and make plans for the next weekend. I try to keep in touch with my grandparents. They are always interested in my daily routine, my plans, my school studies and always show support and understanding when I have some problems. I also do my best to be helpful for them with household duties and summer work at our dacha.
What would you ask your foreign friend about his/her relatives?
How big is your family?
Do you often visit your relatives?
Who do you get on with best in your family?
What family traditions do you have?
Do you like spending your free time with your relatives?
What can you advise people who want to have good relationships with their relatives?
If you want to have a good relationship with your parents and grandparents you should always remember that they love you and mean the best to you. You should appreciate what they do for you, show respect, and try to understand them. Be polite, don’t use harsh words. Remember their birthdays and other special events. Show your gratitude with a little gift, a flower or a hug. Make them realise that you care for them. If you go out in the evening remember that they worry about you, don’t forget to call them and tell where you are. Moreover, help about the house because your parents get tired at work. If you tidy up your room, do the washing up, do the shopping or cooking, you will let your parents rest and make them happy.
They say that parents and children have difficulties understanding each other because of the generation gap. What do you think about this problem?
Generation gap is some misunderstanding between parents and children, grown-ups and teenagers. Adults and teenagers don’t see eye to eye on many things. Teenagers fight for their freedom; they want to be independent, to make their own decisions. Moreover, they don’t respect their parents, don’t want to obey them, and want to do whatever they want. Teens’ protesting shocks people around them. Sometimes they take to drugs, smoking and alcohol. Some of them can be rude, heartless, ill-behaved. It is my firm belief that we must do our best to understand each other, to be polite, and respect each other’s opinion. In my family I don’t have this problem, my parents love me, understand me, support me and in my turn I do the same.